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Why do people lie?  Why do some people seem to NOT be able to tell the truth even when the truth is clearly obvious or evident?  What makes a person tell lies instead of the truth?
Liars eventually get caught in their tangled web of lies and deceitfulness.  Lying hurts the liar and those who are subjected to the lies of the liar.  Lying hurts relationships and it makes the liar untrustworthy.  A liar violates the trust others may have had in them when they are caught in their lies.  Liars seem to carry an enormous amount of burden upon their shoulders.  Think about it…..  if you tell a lie,  then you have to live a lie and in order to live a lie,  you have to remember all the lies you tell and to whom.  Remembering the lies becomes quite a heavy burden.  Even if the liar lies just a little bit…..the pain they cause hurts alot.   Finding out someone you trusted has lied in such a horrific ways makes you wonder why they did this to begin with?  It causes you to wonder why they would not just ruin a relationship,  but completely break any possibilities of trusting.
Lying can spill over into other areas of your life such as on the job, with co-workers and employees if you run your own business.   Some people lie so much that they believe their lies and it then becomes their “truth”.  They become habitual liars.  People who discover their friend or family member has lied, feels cheated.  Especially when the lie is about them or becomes personal. 
Why do people feel compelled to lie?  First we must understand why the person has lied to begin with.  Are they afraid of the truth?  Are they afraid of being caught of wrong-doing?  Do they lie because there is something they want and feel the only way to get it is to lie?  Compulsive or habitual liars seem to be very lonely people.  Some liars must embellish stories so that others will befriend or like them…..or so, thinks the liar.  A liar who embellishes stories just to win over “friends” will eventually lose their “friends” when their lies have been discovered.
People who go through life lying believe that their lies  will make their lives better.  A person who lives their life by lying, does so to avoid the pain of living.  Their lives seem to be void of happiness and they live their life unfullfilled.  Some people try and justify their lies.  “They will be mad at me if they know the truth”;  “They won’t be my friend if I tell them the truth”.  Liars attack their accuser because they believe it makes the lie less than what it is, but the truth is…a lie is a lie and there’s no such thing as a “little white lie”. 
A liar lives a miserable life and it seems that they are only  happy when everyone around them is just as miserable as they are.  It makes no sense.  With the case involving my estranged sisters who continue to this day to make up lies and stories of things that never happened,  their untruthful internet postings are basically written to try and make my life as miserable as their own.  They believe that it is okay to hurt people they know because this is what they themselves were taught as children.  They grew up in a very dysfunctional family unit which causes them to continue to live their lives as dysfunctional adults.
Lies diminish feelings we have for one another and lies decrease the love we may have felt for one another.  Lies destroy relationships.  Lies  extinquish hope, trust and friendship as well as remove any possibility to believe in the person who lies.  Some people say,  “well, why don’t we just forgive the liar and move forward?”.   I’ll tell you why.   Forgiveness can be stretched to the limits and its a word that is frequently over used.  Forgiving someone may make YOU feel better,  but if the person who causes damage beyond repair continues to lie and they feel no remorse…how does forgiveness help?  To forgive someone for wrongdoing who intentionally lies to cause pain and hurt causes others to become confused.  Forgiveness is only appropriate if the liar actually feels remorse for lying……acknowledges they have lied to cause another person pain and if they ask to be forgiven and truely regret their lies and the pain they’ve caused.  Failure to forgive appropriately can make a situation become much worse.
There is also a difference between condoning and forgiveness.  Some people condone the liars behaviour by ignoring it and allowing it to continue.  If someone has lied about you or has caused you pain by lying,  it is completely appropriate to speak out about what the liar has done.  Ignoring a liar is basically condoning the liars’ behaviour.  The religious call to forgiveness is not a call to being a sucker.  If someone has lied about you or to you,  it is appropriate that you not pretend it didn’t happen or that it doesn’t matter because lying does matter.  It matters to everyone involved with the liar and those who are suckered into the lie by affiliation. 
Is it easy for a liar to stop lying?  Well,  that depends.  A habitual liar has difficulty in putting a stop to lying just as an alcoholic has difficulty saying no to a drink.  A compulsive, habitual liar needs help if they are to completely stop living their life through lies.   There are differant types of liars:
Braggarts; Compulsive liars; exaggerators; habitual liars and bull throwers.  The habitual liar is the most difficult of them all with the rest of the other types being a tiresome lot.  It seems the bigger the role model,  the worse a lie becomes.  It wouldn’t be so bad if lets say someone I didn’t know told a lie about me.   It is much worse to have a sister lie about me and its even worse than that when the sister is estranged because they are dysfunctional and live their lives  through hateful lying and outright deceitfulness and directly hurting others through deceitfulness.  If more people would raise the bar,  it would help restore truthful behaviour.  Every time we hear someone lying,  we should call them out as liars and not condone the behaviour by ignoring it or by accepting them as a liar.  We are far better off without liars than to live our lives with a liar.  There are two types of people:  The liars and the lie catchers.   I chose to be the lie catcher because I live my life in truth.  I have no fear about what I say because I speak the truth and know my story as factual.  Liars on the otherhand have extreme difficulty living a quality life because their life is void of truth.  Mark Twain once wrote, “Everybody lies…every day, every hour, awake, asleep, in his dreams, in his joy and in his mourning.” This was written in 1882 in his essay,  “On the decay of the art of lying”.
Many times a person will lie and not even know it.  When someone asks you “how are you doing?” and you answer “I’m great” when in fact,  you are feeling unwell or not doing well,  you’ve just told a lie.  But these types of lies are not harmful.  They are in fact,  the type of lies that are near involuntary and done without even thinking  and helps keep the fabric of our society from unraveling.  But if someone lies and says that you’ve done a horrible thing when in fact,  you’ve done nothing…….this is an outright lie that was done with malice and the liar has done this with malicious intent to cause harm.  We always tell our children that honesty is the best policy but if the parent is always telling lies,  how can they possibly be a good role model?  Here are my estranged sisters,  supposed role models  peddling lies big and small……exaggerating, beefing up a boring story by embellishing events that never happened…..misleading people that they know as well as those they don’t know.  Perhaps their parents gave them conflicting messages as they were growing up……either way,  they’ve turned into very deceptive adults hoping their lies will provide them with a “reward”.  In my estranged sisters’ case,  their reward is gaining my mother’s assets, property and small income since my mother no longer has the ability to realize their depths of deception, due to her diminished capacity from dementia.  My mother has never been a wealthy woman.  She was a hard worker who was smart with her income.  It’s quite sad to know that the very people she thought she could trust have robbed her of not just her personal belongings,  but of her dignity,  her peace of mind and are causing her great stress through their deception.  The worse part is that these people feel no remorse and knowingly deceive her so that they can gain the “rewards” they feel they are entitled to.
Psychologist Paul Ekman says that people lie to avoid punishment, to get a reward, to enhance egos and to control information.  They lie to remove themselves from an awkward social situation.  There are so many reasons why people lie.  So many reasons we wonder how to  drill our way and cut through the molten core of truth?
It’s quite simple really.  By practice and training on a daily basis to tell nothing but the truth.  When it comes to lies,  Paul Ekman is the man.  He wrote the book,  “Telling lies” in 1985.  He tested the lie detection ability on over 12,000 people and found that the average person can detect a lie 54 percent of the time.  This is hardly an acceptable rate.  A person can actually do much better at detecting a lie if taught to detect micro-expressions.  What is a micro-expression?  This is a flash of emotion that quickly flashes across someone’s face, which is either a  suppressed or repressed emotion.   The truth is often tucked discreetly under a quilt of cheerful lies.
In order to detect concealed  emotions,  you must not trust your impressions.  Paul Ekman says that if you do this,  you’ll be wrong the majority of the time through stereotype.   It is quite difficult to judge a person by demeanor.  One of the easiest ways to see beyond impressions is to learn to catch micro-expressions, which betray emotions.  Mark Twain wrote in his essay, “If a man keeps his tongue still… his hands, his feet, his eyes, his attitude will convey deception…and purposely.”
Some people don’t seem to want to know the truth.  Getting away with lies seems to be easier to do these days.  More people are interested in deceptive tales rather than boring truth.  There’s alot of double talk now that our world is more electronic.  If a person is really interested in knowing the truth,  all you have to do is follow the liars’  trail of deception.  They will blatantly contradict themselves and their stories will often times change.  Choosing to lie is a serious gamble of integrity.  But you have to remember that a compulsive or habitual liar has no integrity.  They have no remorse.  They live a life shut off from their true feelings because becoming too close to their true feelings would bring about all the pain they have hidden deep down inside.  The lies are packed neatly on top of the truth and the truth is sometimes too great for the liars to bare.
The bottom line is that there is a big cost at living a life full of lies and deception.  People will refuse to trust in you and people will stop believing in you.  The person hurt the most is the liar because living a life full of lies is detrimental to the well being of the liar and to those who unknowingly allow the liar to continue to lie.  I for one will no longer sit back and allow my estranged sisters to lie about me as a person or as a business.   They can create fictitious stories and continue to build their web of lies,  but the end result is they are only hurting themselves.  My life is driven in truth.  Their lives are driven by deception and untruthfulness.  They continue to lie to not just others but to my mother so that they can  obtain the small “reward” they feel they are entitled to.  What a very sad, lonely life to live.  Everyone knows what it takes to lie,  but very few know what it takes to re-establish trust.  You can’t like someone, live with someone or care about someone you can’t trust.  Liars are very untrustworthy people.

Dee Gerrish
http://www.articlesbase.com/psychology-articles/lying-hurts-the-liar-736068.html

Michael Joseph Jackson - Born from 29th Aug 1958 to 25th Jun 2009 - Love him or hate him, Michael Jackson or MJ as he was affectionately known was the indisputable King of Pop and was one of the greatest, if not the greatest singer, dancer and entertainer the world has ever known.

Born as Michael Joseph Jackson in Gary, Indiana, The world first got a glimpse of this superstar when MJ appeared on TV with his siblings, then known as The Jackson Five in 1968.

Although still a member of The Jackson five, he launched his solo career in 1971. His popularity as a great singer and dancer kept on spreading until in his 1982 album, Thriller became the world’s best selling album of all time.

Actually, the Thriller was only a precursor to 4 more of his chart busting albums - Off the Wall in 1979, Bad in 1987, Dangerous in 1991 and of course, HIStory in1995.

In the early 1980s, Michael went on to become the first African American entertainer to amass a legion of strong crossover fans following on MTV. The popularity of his music videos, such as Beat It, Billie Jean and Thriller transformed the music video from a promotional tool into a a truly professional art form.

In his heydays, Michael Jackson donated and raised millions of dollars for beneficial and charitable causes through his foundations.

A sad chapter of his life was when he was accused of child sexual abuse in 1993. However, the criminal charges against the singer were dropped due to lack of evidence. Then in 2005, MJ was tried and acquitted of further sexual abuse allegations and several other charges. His life was a miserable shamble then.

Michael Jackson was said to have a very unhappy childhood. Jackson recounted several times that he was physically and emotionally abused by his father from a very young age and was forced to do incessant rehearsals, had whippings and name calling. But he also credited his father’s strict discipline as playing a large part in his success as a top notched singer, performer and entertainer.

Michael Jackson first spoke openly about his childhood abuse in a 1993 interview with Oprah Winfrey. He said that during his childhood he often cried from loneliness and would sometimes start to throw up upon seeing his father.

In another high interview, the singer covered his face with his hand and began crying when talking about his childhood abuse. Jackson recalled that his father, Joseph Jackson sat on a chair with a belt in his hand as he and his siblings rehearsed and that “if you didn’t do it the right way, he would tear you up, really get at you”.

The entertainer’s biggest moment was during the period of Thriller when his lawyer John Branca negotiated what he proudly announced then as the highest royalty rate ever in the music industry, approximately $2 per album. Meanwhile, MJ raked in more profits from The Making of Michael Jackson’s Thriller, a documentary by himself and John Landis which sold over more than 300,000 copies at that time.

March 25, 1983, gave birth to the Moonwalk dance routine. He debuted this new dance form in live on the Motown 25’s Yesterday, Today, Forever television special, both with The Jackson 5 and on his own singing “Billie Jean”. His Moon Walk during the event were seen by more than 47 million viewers during its initial airing and drew comparisons to Elvis Presley’s and the The Beatles’ appearances on The Ed Sullivan Show.

MJ’s compassionate golden heart was seen when he co-wrote the charity single “We Are the World” with Lionel Richie, which was released worldwide to help the poor in Africa and the US. Jackson was also one of 39 music celebrities and singers who performed on the record. The single became one of the best-selling singles of all time, with 20 million copies sold and millions of dollars donated to famine relief.

Another celebrity Jackson worked closely with was Paul McCartney and together, the duo had two hit singles “The Girl Is Mine” and “Say Say Say”. But unfortunately, this partnership fell through after some business disagreements.

In 1986, the media ran a story claiming that Jackson slept in a hyperbaric oxygen chamber to slow down the aging process. However, the report was not true as it was later known that Michael had disseminated the fabricated story himself. He was promoting his upcoming film Captain EO and wanted to promote a science fiction image of himself.

In 1988, some two years after he was diagnosed with vitiligo, Jackson bought and befriended a pet chimpanzee called Bubbles, an act which extended his eccentric persona. In 2003, the singer claimed that Bubbles shared his toilet and cleaned his bedroom. Then it was reported that Jackson bought the bones of The Elephant Man.

Again these were stories that Jackson disseminated to the media. These incredible stories inspired the nickname “Wacko Jacko” although Michael would eventually despise the nickname. Realizing his mistake, he stopped leaking untruths to the press. However due to the profits raking in from these sensational stories, the media and the began making up their own stories.

Michael was born with medium-brown skin, but from early 1980s, his skin gradually grew paler. This change gained widespread media coverage, including rumors that Jackson was bleaching his skin.

Then in the mid 1980s, Jackson was diagnosed with vitiligo and lupus, the latter was in remission in Jackson’s case, and both illnesses made him sensitive to sunlight. The treatments he used for his condition further lightened his skin color and with the application of pancake makeup to even out blotches, he could appear very pale.

The structure of his face changed as well with many surgeons speculating that Jackson had undergone multiple nose surgeries, a forehead lift, thinned lips and a cheekbone surgeries. Some of his colleagues also reported that Jackson was often dizzy and speculated that he was suffering from anorexia nervosa.

In 1992, MJ founded the “Heal the World Foundation”. The charity organization brought underprivileged children to Jackson’s ranch, to go on theme park rides that Jackson had built on the property after he purchased it. The foundation also sent millions of dollars around the globe to help children threatened by war and disease. The Dangerous World Tour began on June 27, 1992, and finished on November 11, 1993.

The entertainer with the compassionate heart performed to 3.5 million people in 67 concerts. All profits from the concerts went to the “Heal the World Foundation”, raising millions of dollars in relief.

In a high-profile visit to several African countries, his first stop to Gabon was greeted with a reception of more than 100,000 people in “spiritual bedlam”, some of them carrying signs that read, “Welcome Home Michael”.

In the Ivory Coast, Michael was crowned “King Sani” by a tribal chief. He then thanked the dignitaries in French and English, signed official documents formalizing his kingship and sat on a golden throne while presiding over ceremonial dances.

One of MJ’s most acclaimed performances came during the halftime show at Super Bowl XXVII. As the performances began, Jackson was catapulted onto the stage as fireworks went off behind him. As he landed on the canvass, he maintained a motionless “clenched fist, standing statue stance”, dressed in a gold and black military outfit and sunglasses, he remained completely motionless for several minutes while the crowd cheered.

The entertainer then slowly removed his sunglasses, threw them away and began to sing and dance. His routine included four songs - Jam, Billie Jean, Black or White and Heal the World. It was the first Super Bowl where the audience figures increased during the half-time show, and was viewed by 135 million Americans alone.

In May 1994, Jackson married singer-songwriter Lisa Marie Presley, the daughter of the other “King”, Elvis Presley. They had first met in 1975 during one of Jackson’s family engagements at the MGM Grand Hotel and Casino, and were reconnected through a mutual friend in early 1993.

As child molestation accusations became public, Jackson became dependent on Lisa Marie for emotional support. She was concerned about his faltering health and addiction to drugs. Lisa Marie explained, “I believed he didn’t do anything wrong and that he was wrongly accused and yes I started falling for him. I wanted to save him. I felt that I could do it.”

Jackson finally proposed to Lisa over the phone towards the late part of 1993, “If I asked you to marry me, would you do it?” Lisa Marie Presley and Jackson were subsequently married in the Dominican Republic in secrecy. At the time, the tabloid media speculated that the wedding was a ploy to prop up Jackson’s public image in light of prior sexual abuse allegations.

Their marriage felled through when Jackson and Lisa divorced less than two years later. However, they remained as good friends.

Michael then kept a low profile in most of 1990s and pleasantly surprised the world with the released of Invincible in October 2001. To promote the new album, a special 30th Anniversary celebration at Madison Square Garden occurred in September 2001 to mark the Jackson’s 30th year as a solo artist.

Michael appeared onstage alongside his siblings for the first time since 1984. The mega celebration also featured performances by Mya, Usher, Whitney Houston, ‘N Sync, and Slash, alongside other celebrities.

In the wake of the 9/11 terrorist attacks, Michael helped organize the United We Stand: What More Can I Give benefit concert at RFK Stadium in Washington, D.C. The concert was aired on October 21st October 2001, and included performances from dozens of celebrity entertainers, including Michael himself who performed his song “What More Can I Give” as the finale.

Jackson’s third child, Prince Michael Jackson II (also known as Blanket) was born in 2002. The mother’s identity was never known because he said the child was the result of artificial insemination from a surrogate mother and his own sperm cells.

In November 2002, Jackson brought his newborn son onto the balcony of his hotel room in Berlin, as fans stood below. Holding him in his right arm, Jackson briefly extended the baby over the railing of the balcony, four stories above ground level, causing widespread panic and criticism in the media. Michael later regretted and apologized for the incident, calling it “a terrible mistake”.

Then in a 2003 Granada Television documentary “Living with Michael Jackson”, he was seen holding hands and discussing sleeping arrangements with a boy named Gavin Arvizo, who would later accuse him of child sexual abuse.

MJ denied the sexual abuse allegations vigorously, saying that the sleep overs were in no way sexual in nature. His good friend, celebrity Elizabeth Taylor defended him on Larry King Live, saying that she had been there when they were in the bed, watching television and reiterated that there was nothing wrong about watching TV together.

During the investigation, Jackson’s profile was examined by mental health professional Dr. Stan Katz. Dr. Katz spent several hours with the accuser too. The assessment made by Katz was that Jackson had become a regressed 10-year-old and did not fit the profile of a pedophile.

The trial came two years after Jackson was first charged. During this period, Michael became dependent on morphine and Demerol, a dependency which he subsequently overcame. He also suffered from stress-related illnesses and severe weight loss that would alter his appearance. The intensely watched trial lasted five months and MJ was finally acquitted in May 2005.

Michael was supposed to make a spectacular comeback and had been scheduled to perform 50 sold-out concerts to over a million people at 02 Arena in London from July 13 to March 6, 2010. During a publicity press conference, he had made suggestions of possible retirement after the concert series.

However, on June 25th 2009, Michael Jackson collapsed at his rented mansion at North Carolwood Drive in the Holmby Hills area of Los Angeles. Pending confirmation from toxicology reports, he was allegedly administered Demerol shortly before he stopped breathing. Attempts at resuscitating him by his personal doctors were unsuccessful.

The King Of Pop, Michael Jackson was pronounced dead at approximately 2:25 p.m. local time. Rumors and news of Jackson’s death broke internet web records triggering a cyberspace traffic jam giving Google, Twitter, Facebook and Yahoo their highest traffic on record.

Chris Chew

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Honesty and dishonesty are qualities that a child learns at home. Often parents are perturbed when their child lies.

It is common for young children to tell tall tales and make up stories. This is a normal tendency as kids enjoy telling and hearing stories that are fun. Children often tend to confuse the difference between fantasy and reality. This is perhaps more as a result of an extremely active imagination than of an attempt to hide the truth. As children get older, they may tell lies to suite their needs, like shirking responsibility and avoiding work. Parents should treat each instance of lying as an isolated one and respond by teaching the child about the necessity of trust and honesty.

Sometimes adolescents feel that it is alright to lie in certain situations like not telling ones girlfriend or boyfriend the real reason for a breakup as they are afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings. Adolescents might also lie to retain a sense of privacy and feel psychologically independent of their parents. The main role models in a child’s life are his or her parents. When parents catch their child lying, they should approach the matter gently but firmly, emphasizing the difference between a lie and the truth and the necessity for honesty. They should try to communicate to their child and find out the reason for dishonesty and help the child find an alternative. It is best to lead by example and a parent should never lie, and if they do, emphasize the inappropriateness of it. Consequences of lying must be discussed clearly and in a comprehensive manner with the child early in his or her life.


There are, however, some forms of dishonesty that should cause concern and might be a symptom of some underlying emotional problem. Sometimes children know the difference between a lie and the truth but choose to make up elaborate stories to gain attention.

Other adolescents or children, who seem to be sensible, can also fall prey to repetitive lying. It is common for them to feel that a lie is the most convenient method of dealing with the expectations of teachers, parents and friends. Here the child is not trying to be malicious or bad but just falls into a habit of repetitive lying. If the repetitive lying goes beyond a point, it is best to take it seriously and consult a professional child or adolescent psychologist who can provide help in time.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/teaching-your-child-honesty-how-to-deal-with-a-lying-child-740356.html

When blues chase away every color from your life and the merest hint of smile evades you, you desperately need some â??happiness toolsâ?!  You may be wondering what are these â??happiness toolsâ?, well they are simply some do it yourself techniques to bring those bright colors and smiles back into your life!

Try using the following â??happiness toolsâ? whenever you need to cheer yourself up:

*Exercise or yoga: When you exercise â??feel good chemicalsâ? called endorphins are released in your body. Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright!

*Writing down your blessings- No! Itâ??s not like one of those school punishments where you had to write a hundred times that you would never repeat a mistake again. Penning down your blessings is in fact an enjoyable exercise! When you start counting your blessings it takes your mind away from what you donâ??t have and focusing on whatâ??s right in your life; changing pessimism into optimism, dread into anticipation.

*Prayer- Remember when you were a child, how comforting it was to know that your parents would take care of your problems. When you pray you become like that child again. Placing your trust and faith in the almighty can help you feel better about any situation. Moreover, every place of worship is infused with positive energy; therefore just visiting can have calming effect on the mind.

*Children- Ever noticed how your face breaks into a smile when you hear a childâ??s innocent laughter? Or how you canâ??t stop chuckling when you listen to a childâ??s far-fetched stories? Children can be the most entertaining companions and the greatest teachers. Your worries disappear into thin air when you become a part of a childâ??s wonderful world! When you see life from a childâ??s eyes, it suddenly seems more beautiful! With their disarming innocence children teach us how to live in the moment, how to look for a miracle in everything and most of all how to be happy. Children never fret about what theyâ??ve lost, they may cry over a broken toy or a physical hurt for a few moments and then move on, children are unaware of the concept of ego, they therefore forgive and forget! Even if you donâ??t have any children, visit a park and observe little children busy in their innocent games; it will cheer you up within minutes!

*Sleep- The clichéd phrase â??sleep on itâ? actually makes a lot of sense! Sleeping gives you a welcome break from stress. You are aware of your blue mood when you are awake, sleeping helps you forget (at least for the time being) the reason for your sorrow. Moreover, sometimes sleeping on a problem actually helps you put it in perspective.

*Take a bath-Water can cleanse not only your body but also your mind. A few drops of essential oils like lavender or sandalwood will help you wash away your stress along with your dark mood.

*Dance- Dancing your blues away is a great way to de-stress. It doesnâ??t matter whether you are a good dancer or not, swaying to music is extremely invigorating. Itâ??s an exercise which involves your body, mind and soul. With all three involved in one act, stress canâ??t do much to distract from the pursuit of happiness.

*Visit boomeryearbook.com â?? Connect with old friends or simply browse through its vast library of self-help and coaching articles. In all probability youâ??ll find the solution to the problem thatâ??s bogging you down and by the time you log out you will be smiling!

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The number of single-parent families is increasing everywhere. The 2002 US Census found that three of every ten children were living in a single-parent home. Experts believe the number to be steadily increasing and expect the trend to continue for years to come.

Increasing acceptance of divorce as a solution to marital problems is one social factor supporting the increase in single-parent families. With that acceptance has come greater tolerance for parents without partners.

Single parents face many challenges. They must earn a living and raise their children without the help and support of another adult at home. They face financial difficulties if they don’t receive child support or have a big salary. Their time is over-booked with work, household duties, parent-teacher conferences and PTA meetings, and attempts at private time for rest and relaxation.

Support systems for single parents are growing, but they still frequently feel isolated and alone. New single-parents must cope with children who are having their own problems adjusting to the new lifestyle. They may face anger, feelings of abandonment, and rebelliousness from children who feel they don’t get enough attention.

Although there are no clear census data on the number of single black fathers, experts assume the number to be increasing as well. They express concern that single black fathers may face more pressure than other single parents due to continuing social discrimination, despite less political or legal discrimination.

Many experts assume that males are less equipped to be single parents than females, arguing that men don’t receive the same level of training in domestic tasks and that women are naturally more nurturing care-givers. However, other professionals assert that men are more likely to be objective and logical in their decision-making for the household and that they are more consistent in disciplining their children that women are.

Interviews of African American full-time single fathers conduced by Robert Coles of Marquette University explored why they wanted to be full-time fathers. When the men talked about their motivations, they listed fulfilling their responsibilities, reworking their own feelings about their absent fathers, being a role model, and maintaining an established relationship with their children.


Several new studies have been conducted by experts and psychologists trying to learn more about black single-parenting. There are also a number of websites containing information and advice focusing on the black male’s single-parenting experience.

The following articles are examples of the literature available on the Internet targeting black male single parents.

1. “Parent Trapped: Dating for Single Parents.” Penned anonymously by a male single parent, this article talks about the author’s experiences with dating as a single parent. Assuming his experiences can be generalized to other men and to black single fathers, readers can relate to his joys and challenges.

2. “The Bad Rap Against Mothers.” This article was published in a popular main-stream magazine several years ago, but it remains fresh and relevant. Its author is a single mother who was abandoned by her black male partner.

3. “The Bad Rap Against Mothers, Part 2.” A second part to the previous article, Part 2 more carefully describes and analyzes the challenges presented by single parenthood for mothers. The author imagines what life might have been if she had been the one to leave the relationship. Explaining her argument, the author believes that single parents are well-positioned to raise “exceptional men” who have good manners and lofty principles.

4. “Come Back Home” inspiring excerpt is from the popular “Chicken Soup for the Single Parent: Stories of Hope, Healing and Humor.” This selection acknowledges that everyone’s experience with single parenting is highly personal and that each single parent has their own story to tell.

5. “Get More Time with your Children and Manage Your Child Support” was written for black single-parent males, but it will be equally touching and valuable for white single fathers. The article gives insights into the personal and financial issues single-parent males face.

6. “Dreaming Through the Twilight” is as sweet and mushy as its title but at the same time profound. It is also available as a book that compiles personal diary-type articles on black single-parent males having difficulty coping with their life as single parents.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/6-recent-articles-on-single-black-parents-740359.html

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The number of single-parent families is increasing everywhere. The 2002 US Census found that three of every ten children were living in a single-parent home. Experts believe the number to be steadily increasing and expect the trend to continue for years to come.

Increasing acceptance of divorce as a solution to marital problems is one social factor supporting the increase in single-parent families. With that acceptance has come greater tolerance for parents without partners.

Single parents face many challenges. They must earn a living and raise their children without the help and support of another adult at home. They face financial difficulties if they don’t receive child support or have a big salary. Their time is over-booked with work, household duties, parent-teacher conferences and PTA meetings, and attempts at private time for rest and relaxation.

Support systems for single parents are growing, but they still frequently feel isolated and alone. New single-parents must cope with children who are having their own problems adjusting to the new lifestyle. They may face anger, feelings of abandonment, and rebelliousness from children who feel they don’t get enough attention.

Although there are no clear census data on the number of single black fathers, experts assume the number to be increasing as well. They express concern that single black fathers may face more pressure than other single parents due to continuing social discrimination, despite less political or legal discrimination.

Many experts assume that males are less equipped to be single parents than females, arguing that men don’t receive the same level of training in domestic tasks and that women are naturally more nurturing care-givers. However, other professionals assert that men are more likely to be objective and logical in their decision-making for the household and that they are more consistent in disciplining their children that women are.

Interviews of African American full-time single fathers conduced by Robert Coles of Marquette University explored why they wanted to be full-time fathers. When the men talked about their motivations, they listed fulfilling their responsibilities, reworking their own feelings about their absent fathers, being a role model, and maintaining an established relationship with their children.


Several new studies have been conducted by experts and psychologists trying to learn more about black single-parenting. There are also a number of websites containing information and advice focusing on the black male’s single-parenting experience.

The following articles are examples of the literature available on the Internet targeting black male single parents.

1. “Parent Trapped: Dating for Single Parents.” Penned anonymously by a male single parent, this article talks about the author’s experiences with dating as a single parent. Assuming his experiences can be generalized to other men and to black single fathers, readers can relate to his joys and challenges.

2. “The Bad Rap Against Mothers.” This article was published in a popular main-stream magazine several years ago, but it remains fresh and relevant. Its author is a single mother who was abandoned by her black male partner.

3. “The Bad Rap Against Mothers, Part 2.” A second part to the previous article, Part 2 more carefully describes and analyzes the challenges presented by single parenthood for mothers. The author imagines what life might have been if she had been the one to leave the relationship. Explaining her argument, the author believes that single parents are well-positioned to raise “exceptional men” who have good manners and lofty principles.

4. “Come Back Home” inspiring excerpt is from the popular “Chicken Soup for the Single Parent: Stories of Hope, Healing and Humor.” This selection acknowledges that everyone’s experience with single parenting is highly personal and that each single parent has their own story to tell.

5. “Get More Time with your Children and Manage Your Child Support” was written for black single-parent males, but it will be equally touching and valuable for white single fathers. The article gives insights into the personal and financial issues single-parent males face.

6. “Dreaming Through the Twilight” is as sweet and mushy as its title but at the same time profound. It is also available as a book that compiles personal diary-type articles on black single-parent males having difficulty coping with their life as single parents.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/6-recent-articles-on-single-black-parents-740359.html

My Child is Autistic—Where Do I go From Here?

By Carmel L. Mooney

Perhaps no day in a parentâ??s life is more traumatic and chaotic than the day they first realize or are informed that their child has an Autism Spectrum Disorder.

For my daughter, it was evident to me what was wrong, immediately following her profound vaccine injury. I had no time to grieve or process my feelings when I got the confirmation from medical professionals of what I had feared most. For me it was no real shock to see the diagnosis on paper. I had already witnessed my beautiful, happy, intelligent, affectionate, singing and smiling toddler quickly fall into a dark abyss of anger, frustration, and isolation. I knew what was wrong. But still I was faced with the daunting task of navigating a complex system of professionals and procedures to get the diagnosis I knew she needed in order to best facilitate the care she would require.

What followed were months of sleepless nights of research, phone calls to the best doctors the country had to offer, and long stressful airplane flights around the nation on a quest for solutions. For most parents this period of overwhelming information and searching for answers comes during severe emotional stress, exhaustion, and sleep deprivation. Often well-meaning family, friends and even health professionals are at a loss as to how to support or educate the family in crisis as they wade through reams of information and misinformation trying to find viable options, resources and hope.

Here are some starting points to consider as you will likely be juggling several balls at once as you explore services and therapies for your child, which may include Speech therapy, Occupational therapy, auditory processing therapies, ABA therapy, and more.

Statistically the children with the best outcomes have been treated with the DAN! protocol and DAN! physicians. You will find a list of practicing DAN! physicians and stories of hundreds of children no longer on the spectrum because of successful bio-medical interventions and treatment at www.generationrescue.org.

DAN! (Defeat Autism Now!) is an organization founded by the Autism Research Institute. It is of critical importance to note that DAN! physicians are classically trained medical doctors who apply their training to treat autism spectrum disorders bio-medically using the latest DAN! protocol. Keep in mind that while the number of these doctors is rapidly growing each year it may take three to six months or more to obtain an appointment with some DAN! physicians.

Here is an affordable and do-able action plan to implement while waiting to see a DAN! doctor and for therapies to start:

1. Reduce the toxic load from your home environment. Most autistic children are wrestling with various toxicity issues and are predisposed to magnified ill-effects from environmental toxins, so lower your load at home first. Opt for organic and chemical-free cleansers, fibers, bedding, clothing, and products whenever possible throughout your home.
2. Invest in a balanced multivitamin and mineral supplement. Several companies manufacture specific supplements for children with ASD. Some of the better-known supplements used by DAN! doctors are from Kirkman Labs. They are available without prescriptions.
3. Consider adding cod liver oil to your child’s food or juice. Cod Liver Oil is an excellent source of Vitamin A. Often parents of autistic children find immediate improvements in eye contact and calmness from simply implementing Cod Liver Oil to their child’s diet. Nordic Naturals Orange Flavored Cod Liver Oil is a brand often recommended by doctors for its purity standards.
4. Begin using probiotics. Probiotics provide the stomach with “good” gut flora. One well-know probiotic is Acidophilus, another yet is Bifidum. Most ASD children benefit from daily supplementation with probiotics, particularly the ones with leaky gut or yeast issues.
5. Lipoceutical Glutathione. Glutathione is one of the body’s most potent and vital anti-oxidants. The majority of children with ASD are critically low in Glutathione. Most DAN! Doctors use this as one component of the DAN! Protocol. It is often dispensed in a transdermal cream or as a liquid in a bottle that is well absorbed by the body. You can purchase Lipoceutical Glutathione over-the-counter from Wellness Pharmacy: 1-800-227-2627. A large percentage of parents report immediate improvement after introducing Lipoceutical Glutathione.
6. Find a local physician who is familiar with the Defeat Autism Now! Protocol, and plan out a series of medical tests and treatments.  Some physicians will be open to medical testing and biomedical treatments, but others will not. Search until you find one who is willing to help your child, as opposed to one who wishes only to monitor the severity of your childâ??s problems. Take your child to a physician who supports you and respects your viewpoint, goals, and objectives.
7. Attend one or more parent support groups.  Parents and caregivers can be a valuable source of support and information.  There are over 200 chapters of the Autism Society of America, over 70 chapters of FEAT, and other informal parent support groups. Consider joining or visiting at least one.

It is important to note that every child is treated differently by a DAN! physician based on that childâ??s individual medical needs. As Dr. Raj Patel, MD, a DAN! doctor from California states, â??Each DAN! practitioner has a slightly different approach. We are working with a syndrome, not a single disease. Five different kids with one label may have different problems underneath.â?

The key is to get plugged into a DAN! doctor as quickly as possible so that they can guide you though the treatment plan your individual child requires.

There is something you can do as a newly diagnosed parent of a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Research, arm your self with the latest knowledge, and take action.

Carmel L. Mooney
http://www.articlesbase.com/diseases-and-conditions-articles/my-child-is-autisticwhere-do-i-go-from-here-682889.html

Poster prints are great for decorating your walls. Whether your poster is displaying a picture of a popular musician or sports star, a poster print can bring life and excitement to any room. Custom poster printing offers us additional creativity by allowing us to print unique posters. We are free to express ourselves through photography, graphic design, collage design, photo editing and typography. Here are five wonderful ideas for custom poster prints that will add excitement and life to your interior.

1. Collage posters are a great way to display a large number of pictures in a single location without crowding your wall space. By combining many photos on a single poster, you create a visual focal point of design. When viewed from a distance, a collage poster adds color and depth to a wall, but upon closer inspection a collage poster is able to tell many stories in the form of lively and animated images.
2. Group photo poster prints are great for businesses and organizations. It is a common practice to enlarge group photos such as company photos, team photos and church group photos. Poster prints are great for group photos because they offer an affordable solution to printing photos in very large sizes. Many group photos include a large number of people and a small sized print would make it difficult to see peopleâ??s faces. However, a professional poster printer will be able to create poster prints that are as large as 60 inches tall and 100 inches wide while maintaining great image quality.
3. Artistic photography poster prints have the ability to add depth and color to any room. For example, landscape photography prints create a window effect for smaller rooms by adding a visual outlet. Black and white photography prints can create an atmosphere of artistic contemplation with simple lines and contrasting detail. There are many types of artistic photography that make fantastic poster prints for decorating your home or office.
4. Typography poster prints are great for adding an element of design while displaying a message. These types of posters are often used for the walls of businesses. For example, a typography poster print might inform restaurant goers about the history of a particular restaurant. Displaying this information on a typography poster print allows the information to be available for patrons while adding an artistic element to the overall theme of the restaurantâ??s interior.
5. Portrait poster prints such as baby portraits, family portraits or wedding portraits add a personal touch to your interior design. Parents can proudly display portraits of their children and married couples can share the memory of their wedding day. The best interior designs combine balance, color and individual personality. Portrait poster prints can contribute to all three of these important aspects.

There are a countless number of ways in which to use a poster print in your next interior design project. Custom poster printing allows for creativity and originality. Consider trying one of these five ideas the next time you decorate.

This article aims to provide readers valuable information regarding poster prints and how a poster poster printing company can help.

Sam Nam
http://www.articlesbase.com/printing-articles/poster-printing-5-poster-print-ideas-for-interior-design-713097.html